I want a boy who will tell me when I’m being stupid.
Who won’t baby me with his words.
A boy who will still give time to his friends.
A boy who will tell me ‘No’.
He will watch stupid movies with me, but makes me watch his favorites also.
A boy who’s willing to drop everything to be with me, but knows when to let it be.
A boy who will know he’s important to me, but won’t mind when I change my plans to help someone out.
I want a boy who’s enjoyable to look at, he doesn’t have to be gorgeous.
I just want someone who I can pay attention to.
A boy who will randomly bring me food, cause he knows I love to eat.
A boy who can make jokes about me, a boy that I can laugh with.
Someone who wont mind when I even embarrass myself.
A boy who will buy me something, something I would actually want, none of that jewelry crap.
Someone who doesn’t do everything I ask but when it comes to something important I can count on him to be there.
Someone who I don’t feel threatened by.
A boy who has other friends that are girls, but I can trust him with them.
A boy who will know when to leave me alone when I have my stupid fits.
A boy who I can just sit with.
I don’t need the whole fairytale deal;
I just want to feel comfortable.
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
You have to be willing to break dow...
You have to be willing
to break down,
be willing to push through
the things that
are extraordinarily difficult.
And what an irony
to be strong enough
to break.
Tuesday, February 9, 2010
100 things guys should know about girls :)
1. Girls like guys with sense of humor.(VERY YES!)
2. Girls hate guys who always brag about themselves.
3. It’s a rare thing for girls to go for flings unlike many guys do.
4. Take a close look at this paradox: Girls are generally impulsive buyers but are good in budgeting.
5. Too sweet girls are usually the naggers.(OWS?)
6. Your girlfriend can either jokingly or seriously get jealous over your basketball games.
7. Girls are very suspicious human beings.
8. A guy oughta understand his girl’s mood swings specially when she has her monthly period.
9. Girls love to chat about anything.
10. Girls easily get carried away by their emotions.
11. You must tell a girl that you are courting her. Unless you make an obvious proposal, she could either play numb or be really numb of your feelings for her.
12. The girl who gives you a quick “yes” could either be too impulsive.
13. A girl’s decision is always changeable.
14. It is really hard to trace why girls are unpredictable.
15. Girls can easily change their mind because of hearsays.
16. Girls hate guys who gossip.
17. You would know that a girl likes you if she laughs even at your corniest joke and even pays attention at your nonsense talk.
18. You can hook a girl by knowing her interests.
19. It is a fact that girls, since birth of the world, can be professional flirts using their magical charms.
20. Girls hate it when you make them wait. (EXACTLY!)
21. Girls love babies.
22. If you’re truly in love with a girl, you will have a hard time to convince her telling so.
23. Girls don’t take a full meal especially when they are on a diet. But they love to eat junkfood, sweets or fruits in between meals that can double up a full meal.
24. Beware: A girl knows how to persuade you that you could do her a favor through her charisma or seductive body language without you knowing it.
25. Girls are flattered when you make them melt in your eyes, but they would do anything just to show disapproval.
26. Girls are every conscious people.
27. Girls hate guys who whistle at their back. The act makes them look like cheap.
28. Girls hate guys who hurt them physically.
29. A girl is not necessarily after a guy with towering height. He just has to be taller then she is.
30. Girls generally do not court guys which make you guys so lucky to have their privilege to court your pick. - but there are ways to make a guy know that you like him without the exact act of “courting”.
31. Girls who court guys are desperate. It is awkward to see a girl courting a guy.
32. Girls usually complete unconsciously among themselves especially when it comes to beauty.
33. Girls love pampering and being pampered by their boyfriends. So be careful, this can lead her to be possessive.
34. Never spoil a girl. Someday, if you fail to do a favor for her, she could lay the blame on you after all you did to her.
35. Girls have changeable moods.
36. Girls love being serenaded. The spookiest and the corniest thing that you do is for her the most romantic and the most memorable.
37. Girls like smart guys.
38. Girls like neat and presentable guys.
39. If you’re thinking that girls are very particular with a guy’s looks, then it’s time for you to make a paradigm shift. It’s actually the attitude and the way you treat them that they mostly fall for. (DEFINITELY TRUE!)
40. Girls can keep their deepest darkest secrets for a lifetime unlike guys who are very open about themselves.
41. Girls are the ones who can make a relationship stay longer but they don’t want to have the dominating character over their boyfriend.
42. You should let her cool first before you say sorry, otherwise she won’t accept your apology.
43. Girls usually go for older guys.
44. Like Eve, a girl is man’s weakness.
45. Girls are generally pitiful and merciful.
46. Girls are physically weaker than guys but are emotionally stronger when problems arise.
47. Girls easily cry. That is why they are rarely violent because they ventilate themselves through crying.
48. A girl smokes and drinks though she knows it’s not a good impression on her.
49. Girls love gentlemen.
50. Girls like guys who can protect and defend them. You don’t have to be a macho man though.
51. Girls hate weaklings. It’s enough that their gender has the weakest physique of all human being.
52. A girl can be fond of an effeminate. They may fall in love with a gay under considerable reasons.
53. Girls are constantly demure when guys (especially their crushes) are around but can be wild behind their back.
54. A girl hates it when her friend squeals about her crushes or secrets.
55. A girl that has admired a stranger could research even the least and nonsense bits of information about him.
56. Girls are generally more organized people than guys.
57. Girls wear makeup not because they are not confident with how they look but because they want to highlight their physical assets.
58. Girls like guys with electrical and carpentering skills. These assure them that they can handle even the smallest and peculiar thing.
59. Girls like McGyver-like guys who can easily look for a way out when situations corner them.
60. Girls are generally good in subjects like Language and Social Science than Mathematics and General Science.
61. If a girl says “no,” believe her. If a girl really likes you, she wouldn’t give you a “no.” She’ll give you hanging messages instead.
62. Girls only play hard-to-get when they think her crush or suitor finds her obvious that she has feelings for him.
63. Girls have legions of insecurities.
64. Girls also stammer when they’re talking to the guy they truly admire.
65. Girls have innumerable crushes but her heart belongs only to one guy.
66. Girls mature faster and grow older than guys their same age.
67. Girls are more prone to getting fat easily. (PUTA haha)
68. Girls love receiving letters.
69. Girls are mostly panic-buyers and worriers.
70. Girls love surprises.
71. It is false humility girls show when they’re given compliments.
72. It is by playing tame pussycat but you tame the shrew.
73. Before you court a girl, study her inside out.
74. Girls are particular in getting, grouping or having things in one color.
75. It’s hard for a girl to recover from her past.
76. A girl prefers to learn about relationships from novels than through experience.
77. Psychologists proved that a girl, who was molested at a very young age, loses her self-esteem and develops negative attitude towards other people.
78. A girl can easily forgive you if you are sincere with your apology.
79. A girl can only be healed from her past through the enabling touch of God.
80. Girls murmur a lot or make tantrums when they get irritated. They can control their emotions but not their temper.
81. Girls easily get watery eyed over telenovelas and dramas.
82. A girl gets annoyed to a guy who pushes himself so hard to get her.
83. Girls act snob to guys either because they like too much or hate too much.
84. A girl can suppress her feelings if she knows that a relationship wouldn’t work.
85. Girls are weight conscious.
86. If a guy is too innocent about handling a relationship, a girl would rather dump him.
87. Girls love being wooed.
88. A girl would flaunt her assets just to hook you.
89.Immature guys are out from girl’s list. (I don't think so!)
90. There’s somehow a ***** in a girl, who busted you, when she learns you’re courting another girl, she’ll thinks that that girl would rather dump you also.
91. A girl can make you wait for years in courting her but could eventually give you a “no” in the long run.
92. It is not always because she said “yes” that she likes or love you. She could have just said it for superficial reasons.
93. A girl loves talking all alone with the guy she’s truly in love with especially in romantic and isolated places.
94. Girls drool a lot over shopping malls.
95. Girls like guys with broad shoulders and breasts
96. Girls admire sports-minded guys a lot.
97. High heels increases a girl’s poise on a catwalk.
98. Girls love guys who can bear with what they feel.
99. Girls are genetically sensitive.
100. Unless a girl enters Nursing, Biology, or medical courses or profession, she will always have that irk from seeing blood and will always repel to see, smell, or even hear disgusting stuff.
2. Girls hate guys who always brag about themselves.
3. It’s a rare thing for girls to go for flings unlike many guys do.
4. Take a close look at this paradox: Girls are generally impulsive buyers but are good in budgeting.
5. Too sweet girls are usually the naggers.(OWS?)
7. Girls are very suspicious human beings.
8. A guy oughta understand his girl’s mood swings specially when she has her monthly period.
9. Girls love to chat about anything.
10. Girls easily get carried away by their emotions.
11. You must tell a girl that you are courting her. Unless you make an obvious proposal, she could either play numb or be really numb of your feelings for her.
12. The girl who gives you a quick “yes” could either be too impulsive.
13. A girl’s decision is always changeable.
14. It is really hard to trace why girls are unpredictable.
15. Girls can easily change their mind because of hearsays.
16. Girls hate guys who gossip.
17. You would know that a girl likes you if she laughs even at your corniest joke and even pays attention at your nonsense talk.
18. You can hook a girl by knowing her interests.
19. It is a fact that girls, since birth of the world, can be professional flirts using their magical charms.
20. Girls hate it when you make them wait. (EXACTLY!)
21. Girls love babies.
22. If you’re truly in love with a girl, you will have a hard time to convince her telling so.
23. Girls don’t take a full meal especially when they are on a diet. But they love to eat junkfood, sweets or fruits in between meals that can double up a full meal.
24. Beware: A girl knows how to persuade you that you could do her a favor through her charisma or seductive body language without you knowing it.
25. Girls are flattered when you make them melt in your eyes, but they would do anything just to show disapproval.
26. Girls are every conscious people.
27. Girls hate guys who whistle at their back. The act makes them look like cheap.
28. Girls hate guys who hurt them physically.
29. A girl is not necessarily after a guy with towering height. He just has to be taller then she is.
30. Girls generally do not court guys which make you guys so lucky to have their privilege to court your pick. - but there are ways to make a guy know that you like him without the exact act of “courting”.
31. Girls who court guys are desperate. It is awkward to see a girl courting a guy.
32. Girls usually complete unconsciously among themselves especially when it comes to beauty.
33. Girls love pampering and being pampered by their boyfriends. So be careful, this can lead her to be possessive.
34. Never spoil a girl. Someday, if you fail to do a favor for her, she could lay the blame on you after all you did to her.
35. Girls have changeable moods.
36. Girls love being serenaded. The spookiest and the corniest thing that you do is for her the most romantic and the most memorable.
37. Girls like smart guys.
38. Girls like neat and presentable guys.
39. If you’re thinking that girls are very particular with a guy’s looks, then it’s time for you to make a paradigm shift. It’s actually the attitude and the way you treat them that they mostly fall for. (DEFINITELY TRUE!)
40. Girls can keep their deepest darkest secrets for a lifetime unlike guys who are very open about themselves.
41. Girls are the ones who can make a relationship stay longer but they don’t want to have the dominating character over their boyfriend.
42. You should let her cool first before you say sorry, otherwise she won’t accept your apology.
43. Girls usually go for older guys.
44. Like Eve, a girl is man’s weakness.
45. Girls are generally pitiful and merciful.
46. Girls are physically weaker than guys but are emotionally stronger when problems arise.
47. Girls easily cry. That is why they are rarely violent because they ventilate themselves through crying.
48. A girl smokes and drinks though she knows it’s not a good impression on her.
49. Girls love gentlemen.
50. Girls like guys who can protect and defend them. You don’t have to be a macho man though.
51. Girls hate weaklings. It’s enough that their gender has the weakest physique of all human being.
52. A girl can be fond of an effeminate. They may fall in love with a gay under considerable reasons.
53. Girls are constantly demure when guys (especially their crushes) are around but can be wild behind their back.
54. A girl hates it when her friend squeals about her crushes or secrets.
55. A girl that has admired a stranger could research even the least and nonsense bits of information about him.
56. Girls are generally more organized people than guys.
57. Girls wear makeup not because they are not confident with how they look but because they want to highlight their physical assets.
58. Girls like guys with electrical and carpentering skills. These assure them that they can handle even the smallest and peculiar thing.
59. Girls like McGyver-like guys who can easily look for a way out when situations corner them.
60. Girls are generally good in subjects like Language and Social Science than Mathematics and General Science.
61. If a girl says “no,” believe her. If a girl really likes you, she wouldn’t give you a “no.” She’ll give you hanging messages instead.
62. Girls only play hard-to-get when they think her crush or suitor finds her obvious that she has feelings for him.
63. Girls have legions of insecurities.
64. Girls also stammer when they’re talking to the guy they truly admire.
65. Girls have innumerable crushes but her heart belongs only to one guy.
66. Girls mature faster and grow older than guys their same age.
67. Girls are more prone to getting fat easily. (PUTA haha)
68. Girls love receiving letters.
69. Girls are mostly panic-buyers and worriers.
70. Girls love surprises.
71. It is false humility girls show when they’re given compliments.
72. It is by playing tame pussycat but you tame the shrew.
73. Before you court a girl, study her inside out.
74. Girls are particular in getting, grouping or having things in one color.
75. It’s hard for a girl to recover from her past.
76. A girl prefers to learn about relationships from novels than through experience.
77. Psychologists proved that a girl, who was molested at a very young age, loses her self-esteem and develops negative attitude towards other people.
78. A girl can easily forgive you if you are sincere with your apology.
79. A girl can only be healed from her past through the enabling touch of God.
80. Girls murmur a lot or make tantrums when they get irritated. They can control their emotions but not their temper.
81. Girls easily get watery eyed over telenovelas and dramas.
82. A girl gets annoyed to a guy who pushes himself so hard to get her.
83. Girls act snob to guys either because they like too much or hate too much.
84. A girl can suppress her feelings if she knows that a relationship wouldn’t work.
85. Girls are weight conscious.
86. If a guy is too innocent about handling a relationship, a girl would rather dump him.
87. Girls love being wooed.
88. A girl would flaunt her assets just to hook you.
89.
90. There’s somehow a ***** in a girl, who busted you, when she learns you’re courting another girl, she’ll thinks that that girl would rather dump you also.
91. A girl can make you wait for years in courting her but could eventually give you a “no” in the long run.
92. It is not always because she said “yes” that she likes or love you. She could have just said it for superficial reasons.
93. A girl loves talking all alone with the guy she’s truly in love with especially in romantic and isolated places.
94. Girls drool a lot over shopping malls.
95. Girls like guys with broad shoulders and breasts
96. Girls admire sports-minded guys a lot.
97. High heels increases a girl’s poise on a catwalk.
98. Girls love guys who can bear with what they feel.
99. Girls are genetically sensitive.
100. Unless a girl enters Nursing, Biology, or medical courses or profession, she will always have that irk from seeing blood and will always repel to see, smell, or even hear disgusting stuff.
for the sake of your heart
The saddest part of a broken heart
isn’t the ending so much as the start.
The tragedy starts
from the very first spark,
losing your mind
for the sake of your heart...
It takes grown ups to make relationships work.
Sometimes, it’s better for two people
to break up, so they can grow up.
It takes grown ups
to make relationships work.
To love is to suffer
To love is to suffer.
To avoid suffering,
one must not love.
But then, one suffers from not loving. Therefore, to love is to suffer;
not to love is to suffer;
to suffer is to suffer.
To be happy is to love.
To be happy, then, is to suffer,
but suffering makes one unhappy.
Therefore, to be happy,
one must love or love to suffer
or suffer from too much happiness.
Love is like sunshine
Love is like sunshine.
It brings a golden glow
to its beholder’s face
and a warm feeling
all over their body.
It awakens souls and opens eyes.
And when it’s over,
it leaves billions of
small memories called “stars”,
to remind the world,
that it still exists.
When you love someone,
it’s something.
When someone loves you…,
it’s another thing.
When you love the person
who loves you back,
it’s EVERYTHING.
You could be right.
You could be right.
You could be wrong.
Remember this.
Especially the second part.
Being wrong allows you
to take responsibility for your actions.
It allows you to change.
Constantly needing to be right, doesn’t.
TRUE LOVE
True love doesn’t happen
right away;
it’s an ever-growing process.
It develops after you’ve gone
through many ups and downs,
when you’ve suffered together,
cried together, laughed together.
Sa pag-ibig...
Sa pag-ibig,
matuto kang magbigay
ng walang inaasahang kapalit.
Mamaya nyan,
kakahingi mo ng sukli sa ibinigay mo,
baka ibalik sayo lahat ng ibinayad mo
at iwan kang nakatanga sa isang tabi.
If you gave someone your heart and they died...
If you gave someone
your heart and they died,
did they take it with them?
Did you spend the rest
of forever with a hole
inside you that
couldn’t be filled?
SHE
You may not be her first,
her last, or her only.
She loved before she may love again.
But if she loves you now,
what else matters?
She’s not perfect -
you aren’t either,
and the two of you
may never be perfect together
but if she can make you laugh,
cause you to think twice,
and admit to being human
and making mistakes,
hold onto her and
give her the most you can.
She may not be thinking about you
every second of the day,
but she will give you
a part of her that
she knows you can break
- her HEART.
So don’t hurt her,
don’t change her,
don’t analyze and
don’t expect more than
she can give.
Smile when she makes you happy,
let her know when
she makes you mad,
and miss her when
she’s not there.
CHANGE
The first step towards change
is acceptance.
Once you accept yourself,
you open the door to change.
That’s all you have to do.
Change is not something you do,
it’s something you allow.
That’s the kind of person that’s worth sticking with.
The best thing you can do
is find a person who loves you
for exactly what you are.
Good mood, bad mood, ugly,
pretty, handsome, what have you,
the right person is still going
to think the sun shines out your ass.
That’s the kind of person
that’s worth sticking with.
Trust is a fragile thing
Trust is a fragile thing.
Once earned,
it affords us tremendous freedom.
But once trust is lost,
it can be impossible to recover.
Of course the truth is,
we never know who we can trust.
Those we’re closest to can betray us,
and total strangers can come to our rescue.
In the end,
most people decide to trust only themselves.
It really is the simplest way
to keep from getting burned.
It’s probably worth it...
So never refuse an invitation,
never resist the unfamiliar,
never fail to be polite
and never outstay the welcome.
Just keep your mind open
and suck in the experience.
And if it hurts, you know what?
It’s probably worth it.
just a bunch of choices?
Did it ever occur to you
that you’re so caught up
in trying to make the right choice,
that you’ve never stopped
to consider the possibility
that there may not be
a right choice, or a wrong choice,
just a bunch of choices?
In a relationship...
In a relationship,
it’s very easy to catch
every reason that could
make you want to leave.
But you know you’re
really in love when
you still hold on,
just because you always
cling to the tiniest reason
that makes you stay.
...you blew them both.
It is said you only get
once chance in life.
I gave you TWO
and you blew them both.
Soul mate :)
Soul mate:
two little words,
one big concept.
A belief that someone,
somewhere,
is holding the key to your heart.
...they held my entire world.
I’m jealous of every girl
who has ever hugged you,
because for that one moment
they held my entire world.
...that’s love.
When you accept the fact
that he doesn’t love you back
and you just try to be
the best friend you can be…
that’s love.
People forget.
You really shouldn’t say
‘I love you’ unless you mean it.
But if you mean it,
you should say it a lot.
People forget.
You’ll take the hit
Because, even if it breaks
your heart to be just friends,
if you really care about someone,
you’ll take the hit.
One foot on the brakes
Even though you may want
to move forward in your life,
you may have one foot on the brakes.
In order to be free,
we must learn how to let go.
Release the hurt.
Release the fear.
Refuse to entertain your old pain.
The energy it takes to hang
onto the past is holding you back
from a new life.
And everything is what you don’t have.
Love is precious, love is fragile.
Love is endless, love is everything.
And everything is what you don’t have.
Love is endless, love is everything.
And everything is what you don’t have.
Girls do not dress for boys
Girls do not dress for boys.
They dress for themselves,
and of course, each other.
If girls dressed for boys,
they’d just walk around
naked at all times.
...cannot be known or explained
The prettiest and
most interesting things
are the very ones that
cannot be known or explained.
No matter how hard she fell...
It was like she was only there
when it was convenient for him;
like she was the gas station
no one ever visited unless
their tank was coming up on empty.
Yeah, there were days
when she hated him and
there were days when
she was head over heels, too.
But none of those days mattered,
because she could never have him
no matter how hard she fell.
What went right.
I heard your voice again today
I’m scared by all the lies
I’m scared by all the lies
that were once promises you’d made.
I lie in bed awake at night
And wonder what went wrong
I lie in bed awake at night
And wonder what went wrong
or even more just what went right.
One you haven’t seen in a long time.
Anyone who falls in love
is searching for the missing
pieces of themselves.
So anyone who’s in love
gets sad when they
think of their lover.
It’s like stepping back inside a room
you have fond memories of,
one you haven’t seen in a long time.
No relationship is perfect.
Realize that no relationship
is perfect or ever will be.
But, that doesn’t mean
it is not worth saving.
Let me tell you this:
Let me tell you this:
if you meet a loner,
no matter what they tell you,
it’s not because they enjoy solitude.
It’s because they tried to blend
into the world before,
and people continue to disappoint them.
I’m one of the things you decided to leave behind.
I used to look forward
to talking with you every night.
It’s what what got me out
of bed in the morning,
it helped scribble some colour
into the otherwise depressing,
grey monotony that is my life.
But now, something seems
to be overtaking you,
stealing from me your attention
and your heart and now
I’m afraid to even call you
for fear that you won’t pick up.
I’m glad that you’re moving on
with your life and continuing
to be happy, I really am,
I’m just a little sad that
I’m one of the things you
decided to leave behind.
There will always be those four guys in your life.
Guy #1: Your best friend.
He’s there for you, always. He would never let you down, cares about you, comforts you when you’re down, protects you when you’re put down. He would never betray you. Keep him.
Guy #2: The player.
You can’t help but to fall for him. He seems to do everything right, so you think you love him. In the end, you find out he played you, lied to you, used you, and probably didn’t really even care about you. Forget them.
Guy #3: The enemy.
The one who would do anything just to bring you down. He’ll humiliate you, judge you, embarrass you, anything he can do just to make you feel smaller than what you are. Ignore them.
Guy #4: Your soul mate.
Often turns out to be you’re best friend. He tells you how it is, even if you don’t want to hear the truth. He’ll hold you, kiss you, protect you, and love you no matter what. You can talk to him about anything. He’ll see you at your worst and still think you’re beautiful. He’s there for you no matter what. Love him.
He’s there for you, always. He would never let you down, cares about you, comforts you when you’re down, protects you when you’re put down. He would never betray you. Keep him.
Guy #2: The player.
You can’t help but to fall for him. He seems to do everything right, so you think you love him. In the end, you find out he played you, lied to you, used you, and probably didn’t really even care about you. Forget them.
Guy #3: The enemy.
The one who would do anything just to bring you down. He’ll humiliate you, judge you, embarrass you, anything he can do just to make you feel smaller than what you are. Ignore them.
Guy #4: Your soul mate.
Often turns out to be you’re best friend. He tells you how it is, even if you don’t want to hear the truth. He’ll hold you, kiss you, protect you, and love you no matter what. You can talk to him about anything. He’ll see you at your worst and still think you’re beautiful. He’s there for you no matter what. Love him.
They Don't
Everyone's heartbroken nowadays,
But i mean, we all just gotta move on.
What's the point of reminiscing when you
know the person is no longer worthwhile;
when they're no longer who they used to be?
When their heart is somewhere else?
Do you think they still care for you,
still sit there thinking about you?
Because frankly, they don't.
Monday, February 8, 2010
Expectation is a double-edged sword.
Expectation is a double-edged sword.
It can murder you and it can kill you.
And if expecting you to love me
the way I love you would kill me,
then murder me.
It's not like I wanted to fall for you.
It's not like I wanted to fall for you.
I knew the only thing that
would come of it would be hurt,
but it's not like I could stop myself.
And don't think I haven't tried to stop.
Unfortunately, my feelings just
don't work that way.
10 Signs He's Not "the One"
Some people say they “just knew” that they were dating their future spouse. But what about the rest of us? What happens when you’re not sure if he’s The One? If you’re considering long-term commitment or marriage, it’s time to ask yourself some tough questions. Below, 10 signs that may indicate he’s not for you.
1. You have a list of things he needs to stop doing/saying/wearing if he wants your relationship to work. If you’re fixating on his flaws, he’s either not the one you want or you’re not ready for a serious relationship. Cutting him loose allows you time to grow and gives you the opportunity to meet a guy whose flaws you can embrace — or at least accept.
2. You don’t trust him. A small dose of jealousy can be healthy, but if you’re hacking into his email account, and going berserk when he goes out without you, something’s wrong. If there’s something about him that truly warrants your distrust, then perhaps he’s not the right one for you.
3. You avoid conflict at any cost. Fighting is healthy. And, when done right (in the non-accusatory, rational sort of way), it can be a great way to air grievances, fix problems in your relationship, and come to a deeper understanding of each other. Ignoring problems is not the same as having no problems at all… even if it looks that way.
4. When you’re sad, you don’t turn to him for comfort. When you’re a giant ball of tears and snot, do you lock yourself into the bathroom so he can’t see you at your worst? If you’re worried about scaring him away, one of you isn’t ready for total commitment. Mr. Right should make you smile through your tears and be a calming, not stressful, presence.
5. One of you is struggling with an addiction. He’s sweet. He’s exciting. He loves you very much. But he loves his alcohol habit or his weekly gambling fix more. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you can change him or that your relationship will be strong enough to withstand the heartache that addiction will inevitably bring. An addict may be able to change, but he’ll do so on his own terms.
6. You can’t really imagine him as the father of your children. Ask yourself: Would he make a great parent? Is he financially responsible? Would he be an equal partner in your future together? If you have doubts, he’s probably not the one.
7. Your long-term, non-negotiable goals in life are incompatible. You want kids; he doesn’t. You go to church every week; he’s an atheist. He lives in the country and doesn’t want to move; you can’t imagine ever leaving the city. Superficial differences can be overcome, but differences in basic values are harder to smooth over. Ask yourself: “Would I be willing to compromise on this?” If the answer is absolutely not, you may not be right for each other.
8. You don’t respect each other. He puts you down in front of your friends and complains about you to his parents. You roll your eyes when he talks because there’s just something about him that embarrasses you. A relationship without respect can’t sustain itself.
9. You’re not attracted to him. Physical intimacy is a hugely important component of a romantic relationship. If he doesn’t do it for you, he’s probably not your best long-term match.
10. On paper he seems great, but you have this strange feeling… Don’t ignore your gut. You may get along on a superficial level, but if your instincts are telling you he’s not the one for you, listen. That little voice inside your head does not lie.
1. You have a list of things he needs to stop doing/saying/wearing if he wants your relationship to work. If you’re fixating on his flaws, he’s either not the one you want or you’re not ready for a serious relationship. Cutting him loose allows you time to grow and gives you the opportunity to meet a guy whose flaws you can embrace — or at least accept.
2. You don’t trust him. A small dose of jealousy can be healthy, but if you’re hacking into his email account, and going berserk when he goes out without you, something’s wrong. If there’s something about him that truly warrants your distrust, then perhaps he’s not the right one for you.
3. You avoid conflict at any cost. Fighting is healthy. And, when done right (in the non-accusatory, rational sort of way), it can be a great way to air grievances, fix problems in your relationship, and come to a deeper understanding of each other. Ignoring problems is not the same as having no problems at all… even if it looks that way.
4. When you’re sad, you don’t turn to him for comfort. When you’re a giant ball of tears and snot, do you lock yourself into the bathroom so he can’t see you at your worst? If you’re worried about scaring him away, one of you isn’t ready for total commitment. Mr. Right should make you smile through your tears and be a calming, not stressful, presence.
5. One of you is struggling with an addiction. He’s sweet. He’s exciting. He loves you very much. But he loves his alcohol habit or his weekly gambling fix more. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you can change him or that your relationship will be strong enough to withstand the heartache that addiction will inevitably bring. An addict may be able to change, but he’ll do so on his own terms.
6. You can’t really imagine him as the father of your children. Ask yourself: Would he make a great parent? Is he financially responsible? Would he be an equal partner in your future together? If you have doubts, he’s probably not the one.
7. Your long-term, non-negotiable goals in life are incompatible. You want kids; he doesn’t. You go to church every week; he’s an atheist. He lives in the country and doesn’t want to move; you can’t imagine ever leaving the city. Superficial differences can be overcome, but differences in basic values are harder to smooth over. Ask yourself: “Would I be willing to compromise on this?” If the answer is absolutely not, you may not be right for each other.
8. You don’t respect each other. He puts you down in front of your friends and complains about you to his parents. You roll your eyes when he talks because there’s just something about him that embarrasses you. A relationship without respect can’t sustain itself.
9. You’re not attracted to him. Physical intimacy is a hugely important component of a romantic relationship. If he doesn’t do it for you, he’s probably not your best long-term match.
10. On paper he seems great, but you have this strange feeling… Don’t ignore your gut. You may get along on a superficial level, but if your instincts are telling you he’s not the one for you, listen. That little voice inside your head does not lie.
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